A mum-to-be has been met with support after sharing details of her relationship with her 'extremely fake' sister - and her decision to stop her from meeting her newborn baby
A pregnant woman has been praised online for revealing she has no intention of letting her 'fake' and 'rude' sister meet her newborn baby. The lady in question is currently 37 weeks pregnant and opened up about her difficult relationship with her older sibling - and her subsequent decision to cut her out. Baby Changing Pad
The sisters have long had a fractured connection. She revealed that while they were close as children, everything changed when she started dating - and her sister remained single. As a result, she claims her sister "has been a complete a***e to me throughout any joyful occasions in my life or achievements".
Furthermore, the sister has gone out of her way to be rude and embarrass her in front of her now-husband - to the point that he has noticed. She came as a guest to the bridal shower without helping and then tried planning an impromptu bachelorette day because she was embarrassed when people asked what she was doing for her sister.
"She never bought us a wedding gift, bought me anything. I made her the Maid Of Honour because I felt like I had to and she did NOTHING for me. She came dress shopping one day with my mom and was HORRID. She had never been ruder than this day and claims to my mom she was 'sick'. She told me she had a huge rash on my wedding day and told my mom it was one of the hardest days of her life."
Upon hearing that she had continued to speak badly about her through the honeymoon, she texted her sister telling her to never speak to her again, describing her as a miserable single person who can't handle her happiness. Sadly, the woman suffered a miscarriage before falling pregnant again with her first baby. To date, her sister has not even acknowledged that she is pregnant.
She concluded: "I am now 37 weeks pregnant and am adamant about her not meeting my child. My brother has many issues with her as well but is sad it has come down to this and of course my family wants me to change my mind. My husband at this point (nicest human ever who she actually really likes but is semi-flirty with which is so awkward and weird) says he has no respect for her and is fed up with how much she has hurt me.
"Her argument is that I didn't include her and kicked her out of my life. That she is the one that is hurt. For context, she is still single and miserable. She would be kissing my a** if she were in a relationship and wanted me to meet the guy. Edit: she is EXTREMELY fake in front of people and pretends to be nice to me while she is really being condescending. She is never outwardly rude with her words, but her actions tell you what you need to know."
Fellow Reddit users had plenty to say on the matter. "You are not wrong at all," one replied. "It's draining to be in situations like this. Your pregnancy is supposed to be one of the highlights in your life, and you're supposed to be surrounded by nothing but love. Your sister needs some intense therapy, and needs to figure herself out. She's insecure in herself, and takes it out on you. The fact that she tries to flirt with your husband, is so disgusting, and low. It shows she has no respect for you, as her sister, or respect for herself.
"At this point it's best to cut all ties with her, because she means you no good. Also, you don't want someone as nasty, hateful, and vindictive around your precious baby, when they get here. Protect your peace, and if anyone doesn’t agree with your feelings towards your sister, you need to reevaluate whether they should be part of your life. You've already dealt with so much from her over the years, and you deserve to be happy and have a peaceful life, without her trying to overshadow you, and pick you apart. I wish you a healthy pregnancy, and labour."
A second added: "Her argument is that I didn't include her. What part of your marriage were you 'supposed' to include her in? Your choice of groom? Choosing your marital home? Your marriage bed? You are not wrong for setting boundaries and sticking to them to protect yourself, husband and new infant. I wish you all the best for the birth of your child and it is lovely to hear a husband standing up for his wife and supporting her in the way you described!"
And a third echoed: "You are not wrong at all. It's so sad that your sister is incapable of being happy for you but this is not your fault. You are totally right to cut her off and I am happy to hear that your husband supports you. Your mother will likely continue to push for the relationship but she is wrong. Your sister doesn't deserve your sympathy. Just be firm and consistent in telling her that you deserve to be safe and happy with your family and your sister is not a safe person.
"She may be unwilling to admit that your sister is such a negative person and emotional vampire because she subconsciously feels that makes her a bad mother. I'm not sure since I haven't met your family but I'm sure based on what you've described that you are definitely right about keeping her out of your child's life. Congratulations and good luck! Your baby deserves happiness, health and to be surrounded by people who will enrich their life and same for you."
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